The Dos and Don'ts of Child Custody

The process of divorce is emotionally taxing and complex. The process is even more challenging when there is an issue of child custody. There are, however, several tips which may make the process easier to overcome if followed diligently.

Be kind to your child: While this may seem obvious, it is important to keep in mind. Resist the temptation to take out your frustrations on your child. Additionally, when you are with your child, aim to be neutral or positive about his or her other parent. This will help to ensure that your child is not negatively impacted by your actions. On the other hand, if you know or suspect that the other party is attempting to negatively impact your child's feelings about you or your family, it is important that you speak with your attorney to minimize any negative influence on your child's emotional state.

Control your emotions and your actions: During a custody battle it is important to be under control every step of the way—from the initial filing to the final judgment. To be safe, assume that every word you utter, and every step you take, is being recorded as evidence to be used against you in your case. This is especially true when it comes to things you post on the Internet and social media.

Child custody cases are emotionally taxing on children. To minimize harm, always keep in mind that your emotions will affect the emotional stability of your child. A child, no matter how young, can be affected by your negative or aggressive feelings and actions. Keeping this in mind may help to minimize the negative effects on your child.

Communicate with the other parent: Never assume that taking an action with your child is acceptable, unless you have specifically discussed it with your child's other parent. Taking your child to his or her grandmother's house across state lines could get you into trouble later on if you fail to communicate it with the other parent.

Hire an attorney: An attorney, especially an experienced family law attorney, is the key to the best outcome for all parties involved. It is important to know that having an advocate who knows the system and the process can do wonders for your legal rights and state of mind.

If you or someone you know is going through a divorce in Illinois, with or without a child involved, please contact our office to find out how we might be able to help you. At MKFM Law, our Illinois family law attorneys are experienced in all types of family law cases and are eager to see how we can help you in this important endeavor.