Gather Your Toolkit Before Divorcing a Narcissist Spouse  

dupage county divorce lawyerGoogle Trends shows that searches for the term “narcissist” have increased dramatically in the last decade. More and more people are recognizing narcissistic behaviors in their friends, family, or coworkers and then using the popular search engine to learn more.

If you are divorcing someone who fits the description of a narcissist, you are likely in store for a bumpy ride. Fortunately, there are many tools and resources you can use to stay sane during the divorce process. As you prepare for the split, start building a “toolkit” of useful skills, resources, and individuals who can help you throughout the divorce.  

Why Divorcing Someone with Narcissistic Tendencies is So Difficult

The term “narcissist” technically refers to someone with narcissistic personality disorder. However, the term is often used informally to refer to someone who is selfish, unsympathetic, or cruel. Divorcing someone with narcissistic tendencies will likely be exhausting and complicated. He or she may refuse to cooperate with the divorce process, gaslight you, or even threaten you. Narcissists may hide assets or lie about their income on financial paperwork during the divorce. It is important to be prepared. 

What to Put in Your Metaphorical Toolkit

When it comes to divorcing a narcissist, preparation is key. The first step is to retain a knowledgeable divorce attorney with experience in high-conflict divorce. Next, start thinking about who you can trust to provide emotional support during the divorce process. You need friends, family, and/or religious leaders you can count on. Some people also work with divorce coaches, financial advisors, therapists, or other professionals during an especially contentious divorce.

The next item in your toolkit is knowledge. Start learning about the divorce laws in Illinois. Read about your rights as well as your obligations. MKFM Law’s Guide to a Successful Divorce is a great resource. Your lawyer can help you evaluate all of your options and decide how best to proceed.

Lastly, arm yourself with self-compassion and patience. Going through a divorce is a stressful experience under the best of circumstances. Divorcing a narcissist will likely be one of the hardest things you have ever been through. Make sure to take care of your physical and mental health. Engage in enjoyable activities. If you say or do something you regret, make a mistake, or need a break, remember to be kind to yourself.

Contact a DuPage County Divorce Lawyer Today

Going through a divorce when you are married to a narcissist will not be easy. However, you do not have to do it alone. Reach out to the high-experienced Wheaton divorce attorneys at MKFM Law to get the strong representation and supportive guidance you need. Call 630-665-7300 for a confidential consultation.



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