The Difficulty of Divorcing an Abusive Spouse: What Every Victim Should Know
Divorce can be difficult and painful for any couple, but victims of domestic violence face a unique situation that few understand. These cases are not generally about who gets the house, the kids, or the dog. Instead, they are focused on safety and security. Victims must take extra precautions. Above all else, they need strong allies and advocates in their corner to help protect them from further acts of violence. If you are a victim of domestic violence and are seeking a divorce, there are steps you can take to help you move forward safely, securely, and with a measure of confidence.
Be Prepared for Potential Safety Issues
Whether you are still living with an abusive partner and making plans, or have recently moved out and are afraid as to what may happen in the weeks and months to come, it is important that you take immediate steps to protect yourself. If you have not done so yet, take photographs of any bruises or injuries. Gather any medical documents you may have on previous injuries.
In addition, you should talk to your friends, family, and coworkers about your situation. This can help to ensure everyone knows that you may be at risk. Victims are also encouraged to seek a restraining order, which can be obtained through an experienced attorney. You may also wish to speak to the police about pressing criminal charges.
Seek Support, Counseling, and Assistance
In addition to the threat of physical danger, victims of domestic violence often experience complex and confusing emotions. Some feel guilt; others feel shame and remorse, even though they are the victims. Still others may struggle with wanting to remain together despite knowing the abuse will likely continue. Whatever your situation, seek support and counseling. It can help you deal with the complex emotions, and it can help you feel less alone in your struggle.
Obtain Experienced Assistance – Especially if You Have Children
If your spouse has been abusive to you and/or your children, contact an experienced DuPage County family law attorney for assistance today. As skilled advocates, we are dedicated to ensuring you and your family remain safe. We will aggressively protect your rights and best interests, every step of the way. To learn more about how we can help with your case, call 630-665-7300 and schedule a personalized consultation.